Your ex bf is a skuzbuket! Make him pay child support…he helped create your little angel, he can help support her! Oh, and HE wants a life huh, what about you?

Yeah um no you should not feel bad about being frustrated with him. He needs to take care of his responsibility. Saying something like he still wants to have a life is EXTREMELY selfish. He helped to create this child it is his life. I think you need to try to put your foot down and tell him that the dance lessons are completely unnecessary. I’m sorry but he seems like he is be very irresponsible and it’s not fair to you. Good luck, I’m sorry that you have to deal with that.

Im also 7 months Pregnant with Identical Twin Boys….

I gotta say, even though he spouts about all the bills he has to pay, if he can afford 300 a month for a dance class, he can afford to help with your sweet baby girl. Sounds to me like hes a dirt bag and you should definitely look into getting some kind of child support from him. Good Luck

I’d be taking him to court for child support
don’t put yourself in the position to let him make you feel guilty for him
thats not fair to you either to have to do a lot alone, to care for physically and financially all on your own… and then to still allow him to be around “when he chooses” but be able to come and go as he pleases and not pay what he should since he’s the dad just as much as you are the mom. He should have just as much responsbility in the matter even if you aren’t a couple anymore. Good luck girl.

Well he just have to add on another bill. The baby. If he had so many other bills and he knew he couldnt afford a baby then he should have prevented it from happening. Who cares about a $300 dollar dance class. He probably wont be able to dance any better then b4. U are going to need help with this baby because u didnt make her by urself. If hes not willing to help u financially then theres only one thing for u to do. He seems selfish if he cant take his daughter because of a dance class.

this is what the court system is for. get child support it will change his tune..trust me:)

Hi there – To be honest, it sounds like this guy is really not ready to be a father, financially or emotionally. He’s too involved with himself right now and does not understand what it entails to prepare for a child. You sound strong and willing to put your needs aside for your baby and I applaud you, but this is not the case for your baby’s father. Who knows, maybe when he sees his little girl, things will change. Until then, don’t beat yourself up about it. You don’t want to use all your energy on something negative. I know it’s easier said then done, but try to focus all your energy on your baby and ways to make your life with her more easier.

Being concered about your baby’s wellbeing is something that every mother stresses about so if you must, take him to court for financial help. Or, if you feel like you can do it yourself, budget without his money. I made the mistake of constantly depending on my children’s father and he constantly let me down%

He can take all the hip hop lessons he wants – it is his child and he has to pay. Sit him down, tell him what the costs are and what his responsibilities are and if he refuses take legal advice.

I agree with everyone. He sounds like he is trying to get out of the financial part of this. You need to tell him he needs to pay either half of all costs to raise your baby or you will have to file for child support. Don’t fall for this honey. You be sure to bring up the dance lessons when he tries to pull that crap on you.

He saying that so he doesn’t have to pay child support or make you think he can’t afford it. After the baby born go file child support on him. They take it out of his check each month. He does need to take this responsability. This baby father thinks that child support can’t touch him. He wrong and they can.

It does sound like he is just making excuses so that he doesn’t have to give you money. he wants all the fun, but none of the responsibility.

I would tell him, straight and simple–”Look, the baby is coming in a short time. I need financial help from you, I don’t care where the money is coming from. It’s not like the money is coming to me, it is being spent on things necessary for the baby. You need to figure out what your priorities are. If you don’t want to help financially and physically, then I am afraid you have no place in the baby’s life. Our child deserves a father who will protect and support him/her. Make your choice…”

I know it isn’t easy, but dragging it out is only going to stress and hurt you more. It may be hard, but you will find a way to provide for your child if he doesn’t step up to the plate.

with a baby come major changes…..I know he wants to take his hip hop classes but he should have thought of that before hand. Same goes for his credit, car payments etc. Baby first pleasures last. It’s okay to feel sorry for him but don’t let him off the hook he has to do his part also.

Here is my suggestion to you, most counties have child support enforcement agencies. You should contact them and have them help you in getting a child support order once the baby is born. If he has a payroll job (meaning he doesn’t get paid cash), they can set it up to automatically deduct it from his paycheck.
Second of all, if he is trying to make you feel bad, that is a terrible thing to do. He is this child’s father, and if he is not going to actually be a father, than he can at least help to support his child. It is his responsibility.
I’m 25. I live in the state of illinois. I work a full time job, and attend college part time. I have a 4 year old son from a previous marriage, and am currently 29 weeks pregnant w/ my second. My boyfriend broke up w/ me when I was 2 months pregnant. He said he wanted to be a part of our child’s life, but has spend the majority of my pregnancy avoiding me (calls once every couple months, helps w/ nothing as far as things go for the baby), not to mention he lives 2 1/2 hours away. I was fooled into believe he was someone he was not when we were dating.
I received medicaid through the state of illinois. Due to the fact that I receive medicaid, I was told I will be mandated to request child support from him. (Meaning whether I want to or not). I have made him aware of this as soon as I found out)
Over the past couple weeks he’s tried to talk to me a little more, and I’ve tried to convey to him that I think its very important for a child to know both of his/her parents but that as a parent you must be consistent in your child’s life. You can’t be a parent when it is convenient for you. As a parent you have to put your child first and do whatever will benefit him/her the most.
In your situation, I think that you guys need to sit down and talk and establish boundaries and how you would like things to work. Do this before the baby gets here.
Also as far as child support goes, you child DESERVES it. And if he won’t do it voluntary, then you can go through child support enforcement to see that you child gets what it deserves.

Good luck w/ everything.